Choosing The Right Sex Toys For Your Partner
Choosing The Right Sex Toys For Your
Partner
Sex is
one of those topics that people claim they are open about it. However, it just
dissipates once it comes into the conversation. This is usually attributed to
the antiquated philosophies when it comes to this subject like in this page. It is often said by the prior
generation that it is taboo to talk about it even as a couple. However, this
kind of attitude has changed in recent history.
Now,
more and more people are open to the idea of sex. It is not just something that
is whispered behind closed doors. People are now becoming active participants
in the conversation. This creates a better interaction with the parties
involved and any type of conversation with sexual connotations should not be
put down immediately. As long as it is in the right environment, this
conversation should be welcomed.
However,
there is one topic that couples seem to be opening up as well these days. It is
the use of sex toys. These have been existing for a long time now, but they
have a negative reputation to the general public. It is often attributed to
“freaky” sexual exploits, and it is seen as unnatural or something that should
be avoided. This is often believed by people who applauding the vanilla kind of
sex only.
Are Sex Toys Intro to BDSM?
Even
though the extreme sexual play does exist, this does not mean that all toys are
for that purpose. Some of them are just specifically made for enjoyment. It
doesn't have to do anything with BDSM either. You just need to open your minds
when it comes to these items. They might be out of the norm but this is where
the exploration begins. You can try experimenting with it yourself at first,
then you can start introducing it to the bedroom.
It is
important to choose the right toy for your partner as this can make or break
the experience. There are so many kinds out there though, so this might be a
tougher choice than what you have expected. You can try surveying the local adult sex store, but this will depend on the availability of that said store. Some of
them might be available in your area, but they might be so hidden it can be
tricky to find them anyway.
The
next best source is online, wherein there are tons of options to choose from.
This is where you can start exploring easier. There is a sense of anonymity
that you might not get from a physical store, and you can research to heart’s
content. You can even see guides as to how to use certain equipment. Now, what
makes a toy the perfect one for your partner?
1. Your “Kinks” As A Couple
One of the ways that you can ensure mutual enjoyment involves mutual understanding as well. It is vital in creating a perfect relationship, as well as any kind of activity in the bedroom. The toy that you would be choosing shall always depend on what you want as a couple. If it is just only one of you who likes it, this may not be the optimal experience. Choosing one over the other should also not be the end goal. It is always going to be a decision between both parties.
2. Pushing Limits and Extremes Is Not For Everybody
Another thing that you need to agree upon is the limits. Do you know where you want to go, or when to stop the play? These are important as some of these toys are not meant for amateurs. As we have said, research is important before going kinky. It might seem enjoyable on porn, but it might not be in real life.
You need to choose wisely, as one wrong move or turn can injure someone depending on the equipment. Read more about these incidents here: https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a8479332/sex-toy-horror-stories/.
3. Levels Of Sensual To Nasty
This is also crucial when it comes to playing in the bedroom as a couple. There is nothing wrong with going vanilla all the time. It is even said to be more relaxing as there are no expectations. however, sex toys are introduced to spice things up in the bedroom.
Both parties should be able to agree as to how far you would go. Will you take the slow and sure route, or the bed-breaking rougher play? You will be the one to decide upon the extremes.
4. Consent Concerns
This might have been reiterated with the previous entries, but this time it is all about the entire experience. Some toys are meant to restrain the other person, and it can be an exciting experience. However, this might not work for some people and they may see it as a threat.
If you are going into this, it can be considered as a BDSM play and should be discussed thoroughly between everyone involved. You might think that it is just all about the pain, but it is more than that when it comes to BDSM.
As a couple, it is your business whatever happens in your bedroom. As long as both of you enjoy it, then there is nothing wrong with what you are doing. However, there is a fine line between pleasure and pain.
Sex toys can cross the line easily, so you need to use them responsibly. Discussing with your partner on what you are going to do is also important. It might seem so un-sexy, but it is the right thing to do. Even in marriage, consent still matters.